I attach summer here for you - a three-minute #Icon

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Step out of clock time. Gaze at this painting without thinking. Just for three minutes. When your mind wanders bring it back to the painting. Try and gaze at it with open awareness, allowing whatever emerges to emerge.

The original painting by young artist Emily Marten is a square. The whole painting is, like the square, harmoniously balanced. What the artist has been able to do is look beneath the surface of the houses and the people, and draw out the colour of the emotions felt on this sunny, windswept day in St Ives, Cornwall.

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an example of being mindful looking at a picture - this type of mindfulness was popular with my patients - I had a collection of postcards of assorted paintings and some photos and used to invite them to choose one, noticing what it was that drew them to the picture - interesting reflections afterwards.
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The Most Dangerous Book In England...

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There's two days left to watch Melvyn Bragg's brilliant look at the life of William Tyndale on BBC iPlayer, The Most Dangerous Man in Tudor England. You can view it by clicking here. Bragg's account of the man who gave his life, literally, to having the Bible translated into English, is gripping and well shot, from his childhood in Gloucestershire countryside to his extended period exiled in Antwerp.

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In the #mindfulness garden of the mind

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Someone sent me this beautiful photo of the mindfulness garden at the Chelsea Flower Show this year.
Then I read this quote very quickly afterwards:

'Human love is not a well laid out little paradise in which the tendrils of the heart remain deeply entwined. An expansive space is needed, the unfathomable 'ground' has to open up or, to put in more personal terms, the gardener has to be allowed in.' (Paul Mommaers, quoted in The Silent Cry, Dorothee Soelle, p.129).

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Drama and Music To Make Us Think: Disability Hate Crime, Religious Persecution, Bullying, Relationships, the Holocaust, North Korea, Scapegoating of Minorities...

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   A theatre company, consisting primarily, but not exclusively, of actors with learning disabilities, recently came to Westminster to perform their play “Living with Fear” – and in one short hour achieved more in raising awareness about disability hate crime than any number of speeches delivered in Parliament.

   Drama has an extraordinary capacity to move, to touch, and to reach people and this production by Blue Apple Theatre made me reflect on both the issue which the company explored and on the way in which they succeeded in catching my attention.

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BERT’S FLOWERS – a short story

            ‘Mummy, Mummy, there are flowers on the war memorial!’

            ‘They’re the poppies from Remembrance Sunday.’

‘No they’re not.  These are new ones.  Spring flowers.  Daffodils and things.’

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The little girl shook her fair curls and looked up at her mother.  ‘Come and look. Mummy.’  She took her mother’s hand and tugged.

‘Oh, all right.  It’s a lovely afternoon.  I can spare a few minutes.’

Jane and her daughter left the house, crossed the village street and walked across the grass of the village green.

There they were, three sprays of flowers laid on the grey stone of the memorial; golden daffodils and blue irises, yellow daffodils and freesias, and cream and orange narcissi, freesias and Singapore orchids.

‘They look like funeral flowers.  Who would still be laying so many flowers after fifty years?’

*          *          *          *          *

            The next day, Jane and Amy were in the village shop when an older woman commented on the flowers.

‘Are they laid every year as a memorial?’ asked Jane.

‘No,’  said the shopkeeper, ‘there were none last year, nor the year before.’

‘I seem to remember some a long time ago.  Summer it would have been.  There were red roses and pink carnations  …  Now you mention it, there were some a few years before that.  They looked like a wedding spray, lovely yellow freesias.’

‘Does anyone know who could have put them there?’

They all shook their heads.  No one had lived in the village long enough to remember anyone who had died in the war.

*          *          *          *          *

            Jane mentioned the flowers to her neighbour.

‘You’ve lived here a long time, Sue.  Do you know anything about the flowers Amy found on the war memorial?’

‘I may be older than you, but I’m not that old!’ laughed Sue.

‘What about your mother?  She must have lived through the war.’

‘We moved here from London soon after I was born, so I doubt if she’d know either.’

It looked as though the flowers would remain a mystery.  Jane didn’t like to ask the older village people; they seemed to resent newcomers who seemed too nosey.

*          *          *          *          *

            Later that day, Amy sat on the village green making a daisy chain with the first daisies of the spring.  Jane sat on the seat behind her and watched as a car came to a rapid halt.  An older woman, smartly dressed, half ran across the grass.  A man followed her more slowly.

‘They’re here.’ she said, half turning to her husband.

Slowly, she walked round the memorial, reading out some of the names.  She stopped at the flowers and wiped away a tear.

Jane was intrigued.  This woman was older, but surely not old enough to have lived through the war.

Plucking up her courage, Jane walked towards the older woman.  ‘Excuse me, can you tell me about these flowers?  My daughter saw them yesterday and we’ve been wondering about them ever since.’

‘They’re for my uncle who was lost in the last war.  My father’s funeral was yesterday and we arranged for his flowers to be put here after the cremation.’

‘What a lovely idea.’

‘It’s something of a family tradition now.  Some of my grandfather’s funeral flowers were laid here, and so were my grandmother’s.  My wedding flowers were put here as well.’

‘It sounds as if he were being included in all the family occasions.’

‘That’s exactly it.  It started with my mother’s wedding bouquet just after the war.  You see, he has no known grave.  He was a pilot in the Far East, flew out on a mission one day and didn’t return. Missing, presumed killed.  As a child, I knew him as a photo on the sideboard.’

‘Show me his name.’ asked Amy, looking up at the older woman.

‘Here, just above the flowers.  In a way, my father’s name is here as well.  We both have an uncle here we never knew.  Dad was named after Grandma’s brother who is on the long list for the first world war and then his surname is in that of his own brother.’

‘How sad for your grandma.  She must have been a very sad lady.’

‘Not really.  You see, she believed in God and she believed that they were both safe in heaven with God and one day she would see them again.’

Amy ran to fetch her daisy chain from where she had left it in the grass.

‘Your daughter reminds me of me when I was her age; fair curls and knees covered with grass stains.  I used to come and stay with my grandmother some weekends.  If it was her week to do the church flowers, I’d help her on the Saturday and there were always some special flowers for the memorial inside the church, Bert’s flowers.’

Amy reached up and solemnly laid the daisies on the memorial.  ‘Here are some more flowers for Bert.’

The older woman stooped down and with her finger traced the name carved in the weathered stone.

‘I like to think that they died so that little girls can still make daisy chains in the spring sunshine.’

 

 

I wrote this 20 years ago after my Dad’s funeral – the story of the flowers is true, set in the fictional frame of the little girl and her mum.

 

                       

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My Story 10 – my Eureka Moment

After my turning point moment when I experienced God’s loving acceptance, I felt that my first priority was to find a church. God had other ideas: ‘Look after your family and your new baby, I’ll find you a church.’

And he did!

A few months later a neighbour invited me to a coffee morning at a local church. I seem to remember that she asked my twice as I had another appointment the first time.

The minute I walked through the door I felt at home. I felt that the people at this church were genuinely interested in me. It was the same feeling as I’d had with the students of the Christian Union at university.

J needed a feed, and I didn’t feel comfortable breast-feeding in the main room, so I went into the kitchen which was doubling as a crèche. The pastor’s wife was minding the small children whilst their mums listened to the speaker. We got talking and I gave a potted outline of my life. M began her reply by saying, ‘Now I don’t want you to come under condemnation…’

It was as if a light bulb had been switched on! At that moment I understood what had been happening during those dark years. What I’d thought of as conviction from the Holy Spirit had been condemnation from the enemy, satan, the accuser of the brethren. Yes. I hadn’t been living a godly life; but that wasn’t the point. Godly sorrow over our failings should draw us closer to God; worldly sorrow and feelings of condemnation drive us from him. We feel we’re not good enough, so draw away.

The point is, none of us are ‘good enough’, and we never will be in this life.

In Christ there is no condemnation [Romans 8:1] – because of Jesus’ death on the cross, taking all our shortcomings upon himself, we can draw near to Father God with confidence, not trusting in our own goodness, but in the goodness of Jesus. This realisation was so freeing. And I’ve not looked back since.

Yes, I still mess up. Yes, there are still issues to be dealt with. Recently, I’ve been very conscious of how far I still have to go; I’m still very much a work in progress. But as with Paul in his letter to the Romans, I’m convinced that NOTHING can separate me from God’s love [Romans 8:38,39] – because God’s love is truly unconditional and does not depend on anything I do or don’t do, it’s totally dependant on him.

[You may note that I’ve quoted from the first and last verses of chapter 8 of Paul’s letter to the Romans. May I suggest you read that chapter, and meditate on it (that could take several days, there are gems of hope in almost every verse).]

You can find earlier posts in this series at: http://delemares.wordpress.com/category/my-story/

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learning crochet/teaching crochet

My youngest son asked me to teach him to crochet. He works nights as a security guard – those nights can really drag.
What to teach?
I started with chain stitch, but that can be boring. So I showed him how to make chains into flowers by doing a few chains (say 12), joining with a slip stitch, then making another 12 chain, joining with a slip stitch in the same place and continuing to make 12 or so ‘petals’.

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He made several flowers the first night. What to do with them, were there other stitches he could learn?
So I taught him how to make a granny square. Starting with a magic ring, working 4 groups of 3 trebles (double crochet in US) separated by a chain into the ring, joining with a slip stitch, 3 chain to start the next round. Then continuing to work groups of 3 treble into each space, with two groups in the corners.
By the end of the week he had made a small blanky, with the flowers attached, for his daughter’s first birthday.

jeremy's blanky crop

What simple pattern would you recommend for teaching crochet?

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